"I need to understand the world"

Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical,
and insightful.

How to Get Along with Me

• Be independent, not clingy.



• Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.



• I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.



• Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that
  I am feeling uncomfortable.



• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your
  sincerity.



• If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because
  it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.



• don't come on like a bulldozer.



• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music,
  overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

What I Like About Being a Five

• standing back and viewing life objectively



• coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects



• my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced
  by social pressure



• not being caught up in material possessions and status



• being calm in a crisis

What's Hard About Being a Five

• being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world



• feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all



• being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be



• watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or
  technical skill, do better professionally

Fives as Children Often

• spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on



• have a few special friends rather than many



• are very bright and curious and do well in school



• have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
  



• watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information



• assume a poker face in order not to look afraid



• are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict



• feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

Fives as Parents

• are often kind, perceptive, and devoted



• are sometimes authoritarian and demanding



• may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
  



• may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy

Discover the 9 Types of People

HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

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